The Makings of a Happy Home
Being a mother and the everyday mundane tasks it involves are usually marginalized. Husbands and partners often don't understand how small victories can mean so much to a woman who is wrapping her life around being a mother. Being a mom of course takes over every thought, every priority and every motion you plan. And let’s be honest, making a happy home is so much freaking work.
Really. Pull open a random drawer in your kid’s room. That feels great. The clothes are neatly folded, organized and in place. No one but the creator of this masterpiece thinks of the process. Kid #3, I found your filthy clothes shoved in the closet mixed with shoes, old random homework papers, and a few loose Skittles. I bent my back, collected the items and took action. I washed your clothes. I loaded them into the dryer. While I was in the laundry room, I organized this small desperate room no one else visits and folded another load of someone else's things. I then folded your clothes and walked them two stories back to your room. I pulled open your dresser drawer and almost died. Why is there a bottle of shampoo in here with t-shirts? I took everything out, refolded all of your things before adding your freshly cleaned laundry. I went back to your closet and picked up the Skittles and loose papers. I realized the loose papers are the assignment due tomorrow and put them in your backpack for you. I neatly lined up your shoes and noticed your soccer sock that has been lost for a week (buried in a Nike). I put it where it belongs. I put the shampoo back in your shower and cleaned your tub and toothpaste spots from the mirror before exiting stage right.
Small victories. Meaningless to almost everyone but a mom. I understand that ultimately I am not simply organizing a drawer and making my life easier in the short term, I am creating an environment for my kids and more importantly an expectation. I get that my 6th grader, albeit, slightly lazy at this point, is learning. He is cultivating an expectation of spaces that he is comfortable dwelling in. A cluttered room as an adult will not be something he tolerates. We as humans recreate our environments and these environments of comfort are directly tied to those from our childhood.
My mother used to tell me that your closet is a reflection of your mind. Right now, what does your personal closet look like? A cluttered mess? Small victories go here. Start with yourself and let it spread over your house like a rainbow in one of the Disney movies. Create a beautiful and warm environment for your family because this gift will be with them their entire life. You will be happier too. I smile when I finish cleaning something. My house is super clean but it takes so much work. Some days it just about drives me crazy, but I am investing in my kids and developing expectations and habits they will have the rest of their lives.
A beautiful wardrobe is great. Having killer shoes is everything, but investing in your family and your home space should be a priority. It doesn't cost a cent to organize and create something that makes you proud.