Appreciating your Post Baby Body
If you are anything like me you looked down at your body after childbirth in horror. Unlike Hollywood stars who seem to bounce back so quickly that they are accused of faking their pregnancy, my body was a wreck.
My upper pubic area seemed swollen and a bit distorted. I had a jet black stripe going up the length of my abdomen and every thing seemed soft like Jello that had been left out of the fridge. My poor breasts looked like I was a washed up Playmate that took implants too far, so I decided that my body was ruined and simply focused on how much I loved my new baby.
Over the first week or two, I checked my body in the mirror for some miraculous improvement. My tummy was going down and the stripe did start to fade. I donned sweats and covered as much of my body as I could and was happy to eat feeling like calories didn't matter at this point.
I did not come to some magical epiphany I was beautiful despite my new stretch marks and wider waist line. I let nature do her job. I breast fed, even when it hurt like razor blades on my tender nipples. I ate healthier because I was breast feeding and yes, slowly I could see my tummy start to disappear while I wasn't obsessing. I started appreciating that I would have to work to put my body back together but also accept it probably would never be as good as before.
Over the next few months, I thought of how amazing my body was. Not for the way it looked, but because of what it had accomplished. I pushed an eight-pound baby out my treasure hole. I formed a new life somewhere deep inside of me with ten fingers and ten toes and this little person would live independent of me and have a destiny and path of his own. How mind blowing is that?! All of a sudden my extra pounds and stretch marks were a small price to pay because motherhood was my link to eternity. A piece of me is going to be around forever because I added a human to the world.
Love your post baby body - not because it's perfect, not because you magically bounced back without trying, not because your partner assures you he/she loves you more than ever, but because you did something that literally changed the world. You made a human. Love the miracle that is you and appreciate that awesomeness. I gave my youth and shards of my beauty to my children. I don't need or want it back because this whole process was beautiful and well worth it.
Now, excuse me while I go do sit-ups so I can look more like Beyonce.